Recently, I attended a remembrance service for my 15-year-old niece who died by suicide most unexpectedly. During the service, an attendee shared her tale of woe of her abusive upbringing and later her sudden divorce with the grieving father as an apparent attempt to offer some measure of compassion indicating she understood his emotional pain. …
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Many people have difficulty with change. Many people struggle with the notion of letting go of something that is so familiar to them, even if that something has left them feeling comfortably uncomfortable. But change is part of life. We may not realize it, but we are in a constant state of change. Maybe it’s …
I have been hearing from many people both in my professional life and personal life that feelings of resentment have been building for years, forming a wall that is nearly impossible to see over and leaving folks feeling hurt, betrayed and disconnected. Resentment is like a wall, that, if not addressed sooner rather than later, …
Say what needs to be said (or, how to let go of resentment) Read More »
Most of us will engage in overthinking from time to time. This is, to some extent, normal and human. But when overthinking begins to affect our sleep, mood. outlook and emotions, we may need to find ways to avoid overthinking. Overthinking is the habit of excessively analyzing, dwelling on or replaying thoughts, conversations, decisions, and/or …
Most of us have felt it, that tricky feeling that tells us we’re not good enough, we’re not smart enough, we’re not deserving of love, of belonging, of even having our basic needs met, of happiness. It’s shame and it’s one of those feelings that can leave us feeling depleted, defeated, and lead us to …
Science tells us that we have upwards of 80,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot of thoughts, and the truth is, we are not even aware of many of them. Some of our thoughts are helpful, but others are may not be. In fact, some of our thoughts might not even be true. That thought …
It is more common that one might think: mistaking love for being addicted to a certain person. People may mistake that headiness for love when, in fact, what they are experiencing is being addicted to the ups and downs of a tumultuous relationship. People sometimes become addicted to being on an emotional roller coaster caused …
Let’s just be clear: Relationships are not easy. Romantic relationships can be particularly hard to navigate, in part because they consist of two people who may come from vastly different backgrounds, with vastly different ideas about what it takes to make a relationship work, and with vastly different ideals and values. Relationships take a lot …
We as humans are fantastic at berating ourselves, shaming ourselves, calling ourselves derogatory names. Most of us are our own worst critics. Many of us speak negatively to ourselves, even with cruelty. Many of us say things to ourselves that we likely would never say to a friend or family member. Most of us are …
About three years ago, I started a meditation practice with the help of the Calm app on my phone. To say it has been helpful would be an understatement of epic proportions. Meditation has changed my life so much for the better, I often find myself trying to remember how I lived without it. Meditation …
